The other day someone asked me if there was an easy way to say no. What an interesting concept. I do believe everyone has struggled with this issue some time in their life. It can be awkward to say No or Yes. It can also be intimidating to say Yes or No. It can also be freeing to say Yes or No
Consider the possibility of saying no when you always say yes to that one particular person. I do believe one must be confident and be willing to accept the consequences no matter what the reply. I am sure there are times in your life you “wished’ you had said yes, but your better judgment had you say no and vice versa. (I know I can think of some examples)
Saying No doesn’t have to be negative; it may simply mean you are setting a boundary. You are not going to say yes one more time to that person/situation and compromise yourself. When we set boundaries (with family members and co-workers) we are changing the “rules”, we are standing up for ourselves, in a positive and powerful way. This DOES NOT mean you have to be rude or disrespectful. You get to be assertive, forthright and firm. Those around you may not be understanding at first, but if it can help you from having underlying resentment against that person, and most importantly feel good about you, that will strength your self worth and your relationship with that person. They will have to get used to the new you.
There is a tale I would like to share with you
“The bird got so used to being in its cage that even when the door was left open, it didn’t fly out. I marvel at how many times I’ve stayed where I am “uncomfortably comfortable”, rather than take a risk to become new again.”